You can design instead of the default 5 steps
Did you find yourself just moving, like a autopilot? If so, you’re not alone.
In a recent study of 3,000 people, 96% said they lived on autopilot. The researchers concluded that as our lives become more and more frantic, needles are becoming more and more “overwhelming”, and autopilot has become our default mode. This leads to the prevalence of unconscious decision-making, and the average person makes 15 “unconscious” decisions each day. It adds up to a quarter of a million autonomous driving decisions.
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Of course, many of these unconscious decisions and behaviors actually lead to unnecessary work in our excessive brain, such as morning hygiene or daily routine. However, if left unchecked, running under “default mode” can seriously affect your happiness, relationships, career, productivity, and even bank balance. (nearly 50% of the researchers reported forgetting important things like birthdays, paying bills and collecting children in an automated drive.)
The reason is simple. When you’re on autopilot, you automatically, consciously, unconsciously. Your decision is not based on careful consideration, but on the instinctive desire to avoid short suffering, trouble and discomfort, and to maximize the satisfaction of time, happiness and safety. However, over time, these decisions may prevent you from taking actions that can lead to greater connectedness, happiness and personal satisfaction.
Research supports this. Seventy-five percent reported that they had a bad time, as if they were “sleeping” in their daily work and responsibilities. Chances are, because you’re looking at this now, you’re making some decisions today without really thinking about whether they’re serving your highest good move and what you want most of all… Or far from it. Maybe it’s too much trouble to think about other options. However, consider this: if you keep the default path without changing anything, where will you end up, five, twenty-five years?
When you see a New Year, just know that you are fully capable of living more consciously: design, not by default. Here are five steps you can take to do this.
Set your compass.
Vision = power. As I wrote in the “make your mark”, in your life, you the most don’t want things to myself (in your career/business, interpersonal relationship, healthy body, the financial status, lifestyle, etc.) floating in the sea, whatever in the direction of the wind and tide.
You can regain your power by creating a bold vision for your life. What would you like to do? How do you want to leave your mark on the world? What is your dream of becoming a reality? Only when you know what they want, and why has important significance on the deepest level, you can give up what you want (such as safe, comfortable, safe, familiar, recognition) (deep links, such as contribution, meaning.
A vision without action is a dream. Thus, breaking your vision down into short-term goals allows you to focus your time, energy, and resources most effectively. Set deadlines and action schedules for “critical” goals to avoid being “puny”.
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Don’t say so often.
Saying “yes” is easier than saying no. That’s what people want to hear! That’s why people who operate on autopilot report that they don’t actually want to do about four things a day.
Sometimes you have to say yes to great people. So, pluck out your courage and start saying much more than you, knowing that when you sell yourself, you don’t serve anyone.
Set aside time each week to review your goals with your vision and the higher you are going to do, and adjust your behavior accordingly. As I wrote in the previous article, don’t take your plans too seriously. Flexibility is crucial.
Take “mini moments”.
Design for life means life. You make better decisions every day when you are more cautious. So, set a reminder on your phone or visual trigger to help you remember what you’re doing, and take a few minutes to remember your breath, just to see who you are. What are you looking at? What does it feel like? How polite are you to the people around you?
Mindfulness is a muscle, the more practice on it, the more you can enhance your ability to deeply link, intuitively sense, not guided by the short-term impulse of the decision, but long-term commitment to living a life that is really important.
In a world of growing anxiety, tension and superficiality, it is never more important to break our default patterns than we are, long periods of collective breathing; And make very meaningful decisions, more purposeful, more passive, more courageous, and less afraid of each moment.